I remember being in college and a group of us went spelunking. Laying out in the open and gazing into space. Wow! Stars to numerous to count. I wondered how Abraham felt when he looked into the heavens and was told to count the stars. In space it is an amazing showcase of colors being displayed. Stars, which appear upon earth as falling, are they merely stars or comets shooting across the heavens. Great medical discoveries have been made in outer space, but what impact does space have on the human body?In space, astronauts cannot cry because tears cannot flow without gravity. Tears contain chemicals and hormones produced by your body. When you become upset, the mind overreacts and works overtime by producing chemicals and hormones. Crying helps eliminate the hormones that we don't need in our system. As your tears flow, the hormones disappear from our body. Tears help sooth our minds by withdrawing the extra hormones. This is why many people feel calmer or more refreshed after crying. As an infant you cried and it was your way of communicating. Then, as you grew into a child, you learned to speak instead of crying. When you were hungry, you could communicate that you were hungry and don't have to cry. At this point, crying begins when one becomes emotionally upset or tears of joy. You were given the natural ability to feel.
Sometimes women cry and they don't know why they are crying at times, because the hormonal level in women is very high and there has to be some type of release. What has happened between the times we were children to being an adult? As adults, some do not know how to handle hurt or how to let the tears fall. When you were a child and you felt the hurt of something, you began to cry. There is no time limit on crying and when you finished, your hurt disappeared. Why? It disappeared because you let go of the hurt through crying. You felt all your feelings and emotions. This is the natural process of feeling and letting go of your hurt.
Why do we forget this process, as we get older? When we were young we were been taught by our parents to fight the process. For example, some parents have said that boys don't cry or it's not proper for girls to cry." What about, "Men don't cry." This process teaches us to avoid our hurts. It hinders the healing process by stuffing our feelings inside and not letting them out. No matter how hard you try to hold back those tears, they will always come out. Fighting will only delay the healing process. Try not to avoid your hurt. You can't get away from it. You will continue to experience these feelings whether you want to go through them or not. Stuffing your feelings and holding them inside can sometimes cause illnesses such as stress, anxiety and even the extremes of breakdowns or coping disorders. It is your choice to heal or to be sick.
"Jesus wept." John 11:35 The shortest verse in the bible and yet so explosive in imagery! The Son of God crying can be seen as God's love and compassion etched into the scriptures to share the emotional compassion He shares with man. Jesus weeps at the tomb of Lazarus, his friend, the one he loves. How can one find such passion? He loved Lazarus and His heart of compassion allowed Him to cry, even though Jesus knew He could raise Him from the dead. How is it possible our crying can release the hurt?
By releasing your hurt, you have to be willing to experience the hurt, and by reassuring yourself it is okay to feel this way, you keep on crying. Crying is releasing your hurt. If you resist feeling hurt, then feelings and thoughts of worthlessness begin to take over and soon you feel like a failure or that you're not good enough to be loved. Then it becomes destructive. During the days of Jesus' life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission. Hebrews 5:7 Jesus cried for us. He still cries for you to listen to His voice and to release your pain and hurt to him. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30
When you let your tears flow you begin to heal your hurt and from healing, your life will begin to change. From this change you release the fear and upset. You then can fill your life with love. You can restore your life through Christ by allowing Him to create the life of peace. We have to be willing to release the feelings of fear and begin to trust. This unwillingness to let go destroys relationships with others as you begin stuffing your hurt deep inside. Life becomes more unbearable because you're also fighting yourself from releasing your pain. When you find peace in Christ, love begins to develop because God is love. When love exists in your life, take notice of how happy and free you feel. There are no more burdens. You become confident and effective in allowing Christ to control your life. This is the experience of love. This is what we want in our relationships and in our lives.
It is evident in Psalms; David stuffed his feelings and chose not to deal with them. Examine the following passage: When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Psalms 32:3,4 To create a life that works, you need to create action of crying and developing love and not resisting your tears to come to your eyes. David realized the power in confessing and releasing his pain. Examine the following passage: Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD"-- and you forgave the guilt of my sin. Selah Psalms 32:5
If you feel so overwhelmed its time to ask God what David asked: Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10 Now is the time for you to rid your feelings and cry out. Once you are able to empty your bucket of feelings then God will fill your bucket with love. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you. Psalms 63:3 Don't worry about failing. Let God support you. When I said, "My foot is slipping," your love, O LORD, supported me. Psalm 94:18 The next time you don't feel like crying, think about how Christ cried in the garden for you. Then think about how He died on the cross for you and cried out in a loud voice. It's time to let go and let God in. You cry. God will heal and can raise your heart from the dead to live again.
