“Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing
itself at its most brilliant.” ~Paul Coelho.
I was reaching into the fridge to pull out a corning ware bowl;
I bumped my elbow, and lost the bowl. There was shredded glass all over the
stone floor. If Humpty Dumpty was an egg, then how did all the kings’ men put
him back together again? There was no way of putting a 1,000 piece corning ware
bowl back together again. Luckily, no
cuts when sweeping up the mess and tossing it away.
Do you feel you are in a mess? Life happens and it seems
like everything falls to pieces. It is a challenge to figure out what piece to
start with and to move into a zone of being focused on putting it all back
together. Maybe people give up on you and shut you out of their life because they don't like the positive changes you have made.
Life can be challenging. Picking up the pieces to start over is
difficult. There are some who will never forgive the wrong they have been done
to them. There are some who want the control and will hold the past over your
head. Therefore, why subject yourself to unhealthy people and their thinking when there are positive changes of moving forward with improvements in your life?
I find it interesting that some people go to work and don’t smile.
Some go to worship with a smile, but life is a mess. Most do not want others to
know what is going on in their life without the fear of rejection. We live in a
culture where perfection is to be obtained. Don’t believe me? Then why are
there so many commercials on beauty that focuses on skin, weight, hair or other
parts of the body? Why do commercials state the following: “buy our product” and see the enhancement
of your life?
We tend to run, when we should stand still. In our culture,
men have been told not to cry and suck it up and move on. This is not healthy
for anyone to not shed a tear and be emotional. When we are faced with dilemma and
we fall to our knees praying, it is time to realize it is okay to be broken or to feel okay to be not okay.
“Hope is the feeling that the feeling you have isn’t permanent.”
~Jean Kerr
Sometimes we allow our life to be run by others and what
others think of us. We let our life be ran by a meaning of “instead”. Instead of ending an unhealthy relationship
most will stay and avoid confrontation to experience a sense of control. Instead
of leaving a demanding endless job to find a new one, we stay and complain about
it. Instead of dealing with the feelings we minimize the pain and accept it as
the reality.
It is okay to accept the fact you are broken and in a not okay state. It doesn’t
mean you are a mess and you are to be thrown away. How do you “glue” yourself back to a
“normal state”? Give yourself the
permission to be broken and from there you can be made whole again.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at
will change.” ~Wayne Dyer
First, learn to accept your life as it is right now. It
doesn’t matter the situation and look at it as areas of prospects of growth. Accept
your mistakes, then let go by forgiving yourself by relinquishing your fears,
stress and those who may blame you or try to control you by holding the past
over you. Mediation helps clear the mind and negativity and recreates a
renewing of your mind to focus on the positive.
Second, set your emotions aside and become a Star Trek “Spock”
and become analytical for a moment. Observe your situation and create a plan of
action, but not reaction. Learn to develop an honest look at your reactions. Do
you jump to conclusions? Do you feel you need approval? Do you feel you have to
please others?
Finally, I had to learn God uses broken people. Regardless
of your relationships, mistakes you done in your past, or those who want to confine
you to your mistakes, it’s time for a change. Discover ways to take responsibility
for your joy. We may not be able to minimize the feelings of brokenness, but we
can pick different things to have a basis of enjoyment, for ourselves and those around us. Accept
it is okay not to be okay and sometimes we need to feel broken in order to
recreate ourselves into a better place and situation. Leave behind those who
will ridicule you. Leave behind those who do not mentally supply you with a
sense of healthiness.
Like a butterfly, emerge from the cocoon you have gently wrapped yourself up in and begin to fly with new energy. Surround yourself with those who are positive and will encourage you and not attack you. Develop a sense of healthiness by creating new healthy boundaries which are productive to help you reach your goal.
By putting my faith on His anvil it was a challenge in my
life. I made plenty of mistakes. My brokenness and mistakes are no different
from yours and vice versa. Therefore, we need to pull ourselves together and realize we can
make a difference by using our broken lives to fit into the puzzle of life. I admire artists that take broken dishes to create a beautiful master piece. You may not look like the original dish, but now you are a piece of art work for others to admire.
By Faith,
Forging Attitude In Trusting Him
