It is manly in a woman's eyes for a man to share the load. She needs to hear she is loved. She needs to know she is appreciated. NOT JUST ON ONE special DAY. She needs to feel it. Support the one you love outside the box. We all should be fit and thinner if we all pitched in and helped each other! Life is like a bowl full of cherries. You may get the pits, but it sure isn't fattening!
Valentines Day is great to share the moment in love. Look at it as a New Year’s Day of starting your relationship on the right track. Men just don’t get it sometimes. Women need to be cuddled with no strings attached. Make couple time at least 30 minutes to an hour a week, even if it is for lunch during your work week. Call and tell her you just wanted to hear her voice when you are having a rough day. Let her know she is needed in your life.
Men. You want to turn your woman on? Do the dishes. She spends a lot of time working. Whether or not she earns money she does work. Women who stay home with children need the adult stimulation. Turn the TV off. Get off the internet. Look into her eyes and listen. Don’t fix it and add two sense of what you think. Listen. Women are sensual creatures. Write her a love note from the heart. What scares me? Is that my prayers could be hindered. “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered” (1 Peter 3:7, NAS). Live with her in an understanding way. Weaker doesn’t mean physically. Weaker as in emotional driven. Watch the following movies with her: Notebook and Fireproof. I enjoy the movie Bicentennial Man. Sure he is a robot and wants to become human. The point is you serve her and love her till your dying breath.
Women. You already know how to turn your man on. Men are physical. They see with their eyes. Are you keeping yourself attractive? That is a part of it. The other part of it follows: A man needs to feel wanted. He likes it when he can help. Instead of nagging him to take out the trash, you can motivate him. Not helping around the house: motivate him. What is motivation? Motivation is stroking his inner pride. I appreciate you doing this for me because it really helps me. Thank you for helping me today and it really means a lot to me when you did this for me. It is romantic to me when you do the dishes and I can relax, so that we can have a fun time tonight. What can I do to help you in the yard?
Over all serve each other. Giving and not taking is the key. Keep expectations at a minimum. Expectations kill the relationship. Allow each other to be who they are. Women leave men on a higher rate scale than men leaving women. Why? Men need to be tender and not verbally or physically abusive to women. Men need to quit neglecting women and choosing alcohol, friends, television, games, work, and internet.
What do women want? They want a companion. They have the dream of a soul mate of someone they can trust and who is there for them when they have a problem. They want their feelings taken into an account when decisions are being made. They want to be emotionally connected.
What do men want? Men want someone who is supportive. Men don’t like being alone. Men appreciate women who can take care of themselves and the house. Men bond with women in a physical way. You may have to teach him how to do this. Men need to learn how to have self control and stamina to have an enjoying and lasting fun.
Finally, life shouldn’t be in a box of chocolates. Sure there are many flavors and you don’t know what you are going to get. When life is outside that box look at how wonderful it can be. Wonderful life it is. Valentines Day is special. Now take the day and turn it into days. How can you do this? I enjoy movies and chick flicks have lots of messages in them. Pick them out and try. Let’s hear about Sleepless in Seattle, the wonderful Practical Magic of being able to have a Message In A Bottle. Write love notes and hear You Got Mail. Restore your relationship and put out the fire and make it Fireproof. Live a life that others can cherish in a Notebook. Treat each other as if it was the First 50 Dates. Act like you have Never Been Kissed. Finally, you can have a Valentines Day relationship and live like the Princess Bride. As you wish!
