I went into the woods and got it. I sat down to seek it. I brought it home with me because I couldn't find it. What is it?
Who could resist? Obviously that is a great question and now as you began to read, you could not resist to finding the answer to the question. Do you have the answer? The answer to the question is like a hook and worm to the fish. The question seems to bait us in. When we try to give an answer, it is too late. We are hooked. Sometimes, feeling obligated to blurt out the answer.
When someone wants an answer there is a moment to jump in and help. When someone looks or asks for help, it is human nature to help. Therefore, if you sat down to seek it and couldn't find what it is; then what is your answer? The answer is a splinter.
Trivia games are riddled with questions and you have to answer as many as you can to win. What year did Harry Potter debut in the movie theaters? The answer is 2001. What was Elvis's first hit song? The answer is "Heartbreak Hotel” in March 1956. What year did the movie Roger the Rabbit, debut? The answer is 1988.
What was the song that no cartoon could resist? Here is a hint to the last question: It was an early recording that used the 7-note at the beginning and ending of a 1915 song by Billy Murray. Often cars, trains or even humans by knocking on the door, tapped out this interesting, but irresistible tune. It’s like poison ivy to the brain that makes you itch to get the remedy and sooth the brain with an answer.
Pop quizzes in school were difficult because you had to know the answer right then. Okay, I get it, you are still itching to come up with the answer. So why are we plagued to coming up with an answer to questions that often seem so mundane? You are right; I forgot to give you the answer. The answer is to keep reading the blog and you will receive the final answer.
Life is more than just the air you breathe. Elements are like an impact wrench that chisels away at the very core of your being. A two-year-old child that constantly asks why can be nerve wracking. Yet, all of us at some point has asked the question, why me?
Some people blame tough events and ask the Creator; why me? You get news you have cancer and wonder, why me? It is a tough question that just does not come with a cookie-cutter answer. What about why am I always messing up? Why does this keep happening to me? It is the pattering knock of the song, Shave and a Haircut, and we want to answer, two bits.
Roger the Rabbit tried so hard to resist answering back with two knocks (Shave and a Haircut and is the answer). Someone dies and we feel compelled to come up with an answer. Silence is often the right answer. Being there for someone hurting is the right answer. Not everyone wants the problem solved or fixed with an answer to their question.
Why questions can play the victim role; but not all ‘why’ questions do. Pay attention to the energy level the “why” is being used. Change the why (easier to rationalize and shift blame) to a “what” question. What is challenging and it focuses your attention as to what is the central focus of the problem.
Why is this happening to me? Provides a rationalized victimized answer and should be asking what is happening to me? What is it that I am allowing to happen to me? Regardless of what stage you are in life, ask the “what” question. Example, “why did you do this?” can prompt an “I do not know” answer. Instead, ask the “what” question: what motivated you to do this?
A question does not always need an answer. You can display more wisdom by remaining quiet or if you truly do not have an answer, you can provide, “I do not know the answer to that question.” Think of life as a mystery. How you unravel the case is how you unlock the keys by the sequence of questions you ask. You can play the victim and provide the control to the culprit or you can take control and overcome the culprit by asking the right questions. They can provide you the strength to overcoming the situation. Being a hamster on the why wheel will get you nowhere, but asking yourself, how can I get off the wheel can provide freedom you never knew existed.
Why has this happened? I do not know. What has happened is my mind shifts gears to a strong person, willing to work and solve the problem and not provide the control to the situation. The next time you are feeling like the world is against you or ask, “why are they treating me this way”, stop, breathe, reflect and ask, “what am I doing that is allowing them to treat me this way.” This allows you to become the hero of salvaging relationships.
By Faith (Forging Attitude In Trusting Him)
