Words are the tools to build bridges between two hearts. It doesn’t
mean we have to cross the bridge to be on the other side with the person. It
only enables a path to provide forgiveness and love and other alternatives for you to
be free. ~Steve Hudgins
What defines crazy? Who defines the
words we use from day to day? We use words as a form of expression to try to
convey to others our terms and feelings of what we experience. Too often our
words seem to be taken for granted. Often our words are turned to be used
against us. Words can paint pictures in our minds that are relative to our
experiences.
Reading a book, like Tom Sawyer, can
be challenging if one has never experienced the outdoors or understand what
seems to be the simple life to some. We allow such books to create an
imagination of a world that helps us to escape from everyday life. We try to
picture ourselves in the here and now moment and wonder, what it would be like
on a boat or even to go fishing. For some we know what it is to have a good
friend like Huckleberry Fin. Most haven’t even read the book: The Adventures of Tom Sawyer by Mark
Twain.
Mark Twain expressed words in this
way, “It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a
fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” There are words, which convey
destruction, like I hate, I will never forgive and I hope you die. There are
words, which end life’s construction of moving forward like I won’t, I couldn’t
and I can’t. There are words, which provide inspiration, like, I love you, and
I am praying and thinking about you.
Too often I feel we take our words
for granted. Life becomes crazy and hectic and often words slip from the tongue
and nail a person to a wall. Other times words can cheer up a person when they
are down in life. How we perceive life is determined on our attitude and choice
words we use to describe.
Jesus stated, “It is not what goes
into a man that defiles him, rather what comes out of man that defiles him.”
When people make accusations it destroys everything around them. When people
drink negative they will provide negative actions and words.
Words should be used to magnify and
enhance a relationship. Not destroy. When someone is going through an event,
sometimes just being there for them is important. One does not have to have the
urge to say anything, but in silence, the person who is hurting is still
comforted in knowing how you feel without expressing anything. Just your presence and a soft touch can
provide the warmth and enough words to express you care.
Today, I feel we do not do enough to
communicate in a healthy manner. Texting, emails, and letters do not do enough
to socially provide the personal touch of hearing a voice and tone with the
sincerity behind the words. Silent
treatment is the termite to any relationship and it is the cancer that eats at
the one that is hurt. Video games, internet, movies, or anything which is an
independent function takes away words to communicate.
Try to always find a kind word to
speak. Find ways to give positive affirmation. You will never know the legacy
you will leave behind or the last word that will be spoken. It will be the
impact of that word that can leave a lasting impression. Relationships are not
meant to be dealt with in silence, which causes damage. Heal those
relationships even when you do not feel like forgiving.
To be free from wounds or pain is to
let go by expressing words of forgiveness. To gain a relationship is to express
words that are healthy and assertive. Words that set boundaries helps increase
the chances of developing that relationship like Huckleberry fin and Tom
Sawyer. There is freedom in expression, but it is confined by what others may
think about us. When this happens we give up the control to the other person
and our words remain in the deep well of our being.
Relationships are important and it
isn’t based on the first or last conversation. It is based upon who a person
has been through the entire relationship. It isn’t expecting, hoping, trying to
control in order to have security in a relationship. It isn’t looking back at
what it was or looking forward to what it could have been. Relationships have to be living in
the present and accepting it as it is now. Each relationship cultivates a
strong suit or limitation within you. When we instinctively no longer necessitate
needing someone, then truly a real relationship can begin.
My grandmother always thanked me for
calling her and always expressing to me, “thank you for the flowers for today.”
Stop and meditate to find that peace in your life. Choose your words carefully,
and provide them to someone who could be hurting and longing for a touch of a
word to relight the fire in their soul. Words are the tools to build bridges
between two hearts.It doesn’t mean we have to cross the bridge to be on the
other side with the person. It only enables a path to provide forgiveness and
love and other alternatives for you to be free.
Therefore, express yourself and let
the brain be free of thoughts with words to convey your thoughts. It can
provide the necessary freedom from the shackles, which confine us to guilt and
shame. Too often we let our thoughts confine us into a prison of negative and
darkness. We are called to the light for He is the Word and has been
from the beginning. His truth will set you free. If you allow the WORD(s)
of healing to be taken into your heart, then the positive words can flow freely
from you, in order to provide healing to those who are hurting.
When we stop communicating or we
don't know what to say, then we fail to be true to our self. Then lies, and
negative self talk begin and thoughts of the other person can distort how we
truly see them as they are. It is all about how you want to play the words in a
negative or positive way. It is all in word play, but playing with words is
dangerous ground. Always seek the need of the other person above your own, and
provide words of encouragement. Say hello, to that cashier that is having a
difficult day.
The movie Avatar had it right in an
expression of this phrase, " I SEE YOU". When we use words to
express the positive affirmation or express feelings in a way that is
constructive and healthy, then we have a bridge and our hearts will truly know
and express, "I see you." Seeing a person is vital to a healthy sense of you. To ignore the person or situation only creates a subconscious prison, which confines and limits you from other relationships.
It is by Faith (forging attitude in
trusting Him), we are to have words that are healing, consoling, building and
encouraging one another. I am tired of a negative world, being trapped in a
defeatist or victim mentality. It is time to change and to live in the light to
encourage a play on words. I pray you may be uplifted today, because You are
Worthy!
By Faith,
