I can get sad, I can get frustrated, I can get scared, but I never get
depressed - because there's joy in my life. - Michael J. Fox
A fog mist
looms over the lake this early morning. A small chill can be felt in the air
and soft puffy clouds like cotton candy float above. The sun begins to peak
above the mountain, like your head peers from the warm covers of a nice cozy
warm sleep you awakened fresh and renewed.
The birds like
a morning song begin to bring sounding joy. The waters of the lake ripple an
invitation that it holds the depth of richness. A crackling camp fire reminds
you of the days of eating Rice Krispy cereal and listening to the sounds of the
snap, crackle and pop.
A picture is
worth a thousand words and yet words cannot describe the scenery before the
picture is taken. How would you describe yourself? It is a challenge in understanding what your
core belief system is all about. A
selfie of you can express your outer happiness, but what about the closet of your
mind where shadows are far greater?
Many patients
express to me, “I am a bad person, or I am never good enough.” Negative
thoughts are like termites to the mind that tend to eat away at the good core
of a person. What is your belief system about yourself? If it isn’t good, then
how are you treating those around you?
It isn’t about
the accomplishments, which seem to be significant, but it is the thrashing you
have dealt with in your life. It isn’t about suppressing or winning, but it is
about how well you have skirmished your mindless thoughts.
Everyone battles a
war within because we languish in our past mistakes. Some have voids like
potholes in a road in an aching heart, which long to be filled with love, or we
compare ourselves to what we do not have and yet wish we had. Some sweep it away and try to block out those memories, relationships in order not to deal with change.
For some we
wrestle with struggles like: identity, death, depression, loneliness, mistakes,
if we are a good parent and the list is endless, but we have to first be real with who we are in the
mirror of truth. It is judgmental
attitudes, those who leave us in silence and never to speak to us again, it is
the fear of the unknown, which suppresses our thoughts like a dead body in a
coffin buried six feet deep.
Everyone
struggles at one point in time with various things. It is what I feel makes us
humble and sometimes these struggles can be the idol of focus. It develops into a pictured thought; we can’t seem to live life
like we ought to live life. It is misunderstandings like a sponge we soak in
and focus on the negativity rather than the positive. It is easier to draw into
the negative, than focus on the positive.
What if we
captivate our thoughts like a camera, which captures a picture? We take that SD
card, or film and develop or process that image into a beautiful picture. Our
mind is like a camera taking in the scenery as first described within this
written script and develops into words and thoughts.
If we can
embrace the pain and understand that is life. We can accomplish something very
different and unusual. You rise as a victor to living and not succumb to a sarcophagus
of a lifeless life. I’ve been through remarriage and divorce. In my past there was a minister
who criticized me, but that didn’t stop my faith. I feel sorry for him and his disparaging
words to me. I don't let others decide my fate or place of worship. I developed a healthy boundary of who I allow that is positive to
influence my life.
Bottom line is
for you to start living life without judgments holding you back. Embrace pain,
learn and live through it, expecting it will happen again. Learning to take the
focus off yourself and placing it into a higher power was the hardest lesson
for me to learn. Cancer was the pain that brought me to my knees and to dig
deeper into trusting in a higher power. He has not failed me and continually
blesses me.
Therefore, take
your negative thoughts and don’t miss out on a wonderful relationship. Yes, I’ve
been deeply hurt in a relationship. We all have, but similar to my situation with the one minister, should not stop you from developing a more positive and healthier relationship.
It is true we are all on different crossroads, but that is why we have people who
compliment us to inspire us and lift us up. It is easy to fall into complacency that no one will accept you for who you are. It is easy to project our fears and thoughts onto a person who is uplifting you and not allowing them to be them because you fear change or lack the experience of what a good relationship could develop.
Fighting depression? Battling your belief system? You are not
alone. Find that person who inspires you to be better than where you are
because life is worth living in a positive manner. One developed thought is the jump start of your altitude. How high are you willing to fly?
Don’t play leapfrog with a unicorn. Embrace fear by writing out the positives and negative by adding healthy boundaries, then develop your thoughts and see if that is worth creating that specific relationship. You will know soon enough by
how the person treats you whether or not that is a positive or negative
influence.
Take your eyes
and mind as the camera and focus on what could be a positive moment. Take time
and process the “negative/positive” and develop it into a picture worth keeping
in your mind. Capture a
positive thought and become a positive light embracing future pain and using it
to help others. Soon, when you are expressive and confident, you will see you
were never alone.
When we fear, it is because we do not have control over the
situation. Captivate the moment and express them in positive living affirmed
words by looking at truth and not within yourself or by what others express to you. There
is greatness to be had, but are you willing to ride the horse called pain?
Remember, you
are not alone, but there is a life worth living if only you would embrace the
future and not the past. Your mind is a plethora of photography and you have to learn how to develop those thoughts into a positive way. Life is worth living, when we can develop our core image and casting a positive flash of light captivating those happy relationships.
By faith we forge an attitude in trusting Him!
