God built lighthouses to see people
through storms. Then he built storms to remind people to find lighthouses.” ― Shannon
L. Alder
Turn off the Television, turn off any music and shut off any
noise and try to find your quiet place just for a moment. Is your mind still
racing with thoughts about yesterday? Do
you feel you have a mini Niagara Falls running through your mind or is your day
beginning and you’re thinking about today?
Does it seem to you that sometimes when you lie down and
try to sleep; it might be the only time you find peace? However, like a
constant dripping faucet, I can imagine there are those dripping thoughts going
through your mind and then, another restless night. You try to find the pieces
to put together to get peace, but it doesn’t seem quite fit the puzzle.
Being over stimulated is one cause of stress. It is crucial
to find a moment in a day to have a peaceful self-time out. Okay, you can laugh
at me; but I find it very relaxing. Last night, I lit candles, put some stress
away bubbles in the Jacuzzi tub, soft music and a glass of red wine and
relaxed. I know I am a guy, but I find solitude sometimes can be relaxing. Okay, before some of you judge me on my
drinking, just note that I have never been drunk; or tipsy.
Constant noises of music, television, cars, lawn mowers,
people on telephones, conversations, and when do you have time to stop and
read? Schedules can become hectic, when there is no organization or you are over
booking yourself. Maybe you have a hectic schedule: waking up, getting ready
for work, get the children up for school, make them lunches, drive to work,
work, drive home, eat, basketball practice, homework, get ready for tomorrow,
get kids to bed, relax for 5 minutes, get ready for bed and then try to sleep
all to prepare for another day just like it.
Take time and think about what occupies your thoughts on
most days. This verse, Psalms 139:1-24 has helped me and it made me realize, I
am not alone in this life. He is constantly with me in all my thoughts.
Changing my thinking allowed my life to get better by understanding it is the
self-talk dialogue, which tells you about life’s situations.
Any constant noise can be like fog to your mind that clouds
your thinking. The voice in your mind that talks to you can makes things worse.
It may be a small problem and you think about it for a while and it seems to be
a bigger problem. Your mind begins to play tricks and allows you to second
guess yourself by telling you that you might be wrong in the choice you may
choose. The imagination if fed with feelings and thoughts creates into a
bad situation and the problem stems from a mild situation to what you feel is a
major cataclysm and you imagine the situation to be the real situation.
For now, if you were to take action, it may be going to be
blown out of proportion to the unprecedented problem. If you step back and
realize that the normal reaction would have been small emotional distress. I
have been laid off from a job and had feelings of frustration and worry and these
are considered normal. However, my inner voice, if I allowed it, could have
easily made it into a worse exaggerating situation of thinking that “I will
never find a job” or “no one will hire me.” Then the added stress of the bills,
possibility of losing everything can begin a dialogue, which could have
resulted in an overreaction of just giving up.
Picking the pieces to Peace is discovering you have to
change your thoughts and attitude by changing your inner dialogue you have with
yourself. Set up a filter in your mind
to alert yourself to being responsive to what you are saying in your dialogue
to yourself about the situation. It is easy to shift blame and say, “why is
this happening to me?” or “Who is doing this to me?” Focusing on the external origin
of the problem does not help to remain calm and think things through.
Instead, begin to quiet your mind and reflect on your thoughts
about what you believe and value within yourself. If negative thoughts come,
then captivate them and make them obedient to the truth. You can get through
this and this problem can be dealt with in a healthy manner. Others can be
critical and harsh about the situation and you have to weigh carefully what
they are expressing.
How you think and reflect about yourself can determine if
you become the victim or become a victor. If you start to believe in negative
judgments then you may fall prey to being the victim of your own circumstances.
How you can pick pieces to finding peace will be challenging when unwarranted
negative criticisms are made.
Like in English class, you broke apart a sentences into
verbs, nouns, adjectives etc.. and now you have to do the same with your
thoughts. Find some quiet time to reflect without the noise. Once you have reflected then write out the
situation, your thoughts and feelings and put a plan into place in order for
you to move forward and measure your progress. How do you get rid of an
Elephant? One bite at a time.
“Feelings are something you have; not something you are.” ― Shannon L.
Alder
I found using the following to help me to pick up the pieces
and finding inner PEACE:
- Believe you are loved. I had to understand the truth about me that believing I am loved stemmed from knowing who I am. Not judging myself for prior mistakes or others, but daily reading the bible and meditating provided me the feeling of unconditional love from the Creator.
- I had to control my thinking by monitoring my thoughts and putting them to the truth test. Did my thoughts exist from primarily being fear-based or judgmental attitude? I had to challenge my thinking and shape my beliefs about myself and recognize some of my thoughts stemmed from faulty thinking. Your mind or thoughts can be reflective of the way you feel.
- Accepting daily life for what it is. There is a lot of negative feedback in this world and we have to learn to have inner peace. I had to learn I am the only one that has control over my thoughts, actions and attitude. I can’t control other people and take blame for what they have done.
Picking up the pieces in order to find peace stems from the
changes you decide to make inside of you. Either you can expressively panic and
cause chaos around you, or learn to calm your thoughts down and deal with the
piece one at a time until the peace begins to fit into the thoughts and
feelings. Don’t regret your past and don’t fear the future, but live in the
present to restore your inner peace by believing you are loved, letting go of
control of things you have no control over and accept the life as it presents
itself.
It is by F(orging) A(ttitude) I(n) T(rusting) H(im) that you can have peace wielded into your life.
